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There is a moment in early childhood — around three years old — where imagination blooms faster than the brain can organize reality. The curtain moves, a shadow shifts, and suddenly the child whispers: “There is a monster.....” For a 3-year-old, this is not just play. Their nervous system is still learning to separate inside  from outside , imagined  from real . The prefrontal cortex — the part of the brain that knows “this is only in my mind” — is still under construction. M

That moment—when a parent says to a toddler, “You can bite food, you can bite to defend yourself…”—can seem innocuous, maybe even protective. But beneath the surface lies a very different message: When you feel threatened → you respond by attacking. What seems like a simple rule for physical safety can subtly wire a pattern of defensive reactivity in the child’s nervous system. And such patterns don’t stay small—they evolve into emotional and relational habits. Let’s explore

Many people say — with conviction — that a child “needs to hear music, TV, or radio” so they won’t “grow wild like Tarzan” or “fall behind.” I’ve heard this from parents, nannies, and sometimes even from educators or healthcare workers. “We let the radio or TV play all day so the baby gets used to sounds.” “He grew up with the TV on and he’s fine — see, he didn’t die!” And they’re right — children don’t die from noise . Life  always finds a way to adapt. But adaptation is not

Many parents are told that toddlers can adapt quickly to daycare or kindergarten starting at 2 years old — especially if the child says “bye”, smiles, or shows “social behavior.” But what we often miss is this: Saying "bye" is not the same as understanding what it means to be apart. Words Before Meaning Children between 1.5 and 3 often learn words and scripts (“Bye!”), but this doesn't mean their nervous system or mind truly understands the separation. They repeat phrases, bu

It’s not easy to witness your little one in moments of rage — screaming, hitting, biting, throwing themselves on the floor, or even lashing out at pets. Many parents feel heartbroken and powerless, torn between guilt and the need to stop the behavior. But what if these explosions are not acts of defiance — but attempts to communicate  something too big to hold inside? Why distraction doesn’t help When a child is overwhelmed by anger or frustration, distraction may seem to wor

When a second child is born, the firstborn’s world changes forever. It is a  developmental wound — the loss of exclusive attachment and the shock of sharing the attachment figure. For a toddler, this is not jealousy in the adult sense; it’s a grief reaction plus a physiological stress overload. The little one who once had full access to parental love and attention suddenly faces the greatest emotional challenge of early childhood: sharing. Sharing space. Sharing toys. Sharing

Trust their inner compass! So many parents today feel the pressure to keep their children “busy” every single moment of the day. Activities, stimulation, educational apps, structured games… it seems endless. Some even ask: “What should I start doing to keep my 4-month-old entertained?” And honestly? My answer is simple: Nothing. Children don’t need to be kept busy — they need to be seen, felt, and held with presence. What they truly long for is emotional availability, not con

I’ve noticed a growing trend: when a child around 18 months old starts saying “bye-bye,” adults interpret this gesture as a sign of readiness for kindergarten. Even some educators support this. From my point of view, if we look closely, what seems like evidence that the baby is ready for separation is actually just the beginning of the individuation process. Around 18 months of age, the child begins to feel “I am me” — different from mom, dad. It’s a subtle change, an awarene

More and more parents buy books to “teach children about emotions.” But children already know how to feel. What they need is parents who can mirror and guide those feelings in the moment. Young children don’t “understand” emotions the way adults do. They feel them first in their bodies. Before concepts, stories, or logic, there is sensation: warmth, tightness, trembling, or joy flowing through them. Because they don’t yet have the words or frameworks to explain what they feel

And how we can replace subtle manipulation with conscious guidance Around 1.6 to 2 years old, children begin discovering a fundamental truth: “I am a separate person from mama and papa.” This marks the beginning of individuation. They say “no,” they resist, they explore—not to challenge us, but to define themselves. But what happens when, instead of supporting this natural process, we respond with phrases like: “Daddy kindly asks you to put that back…”“Please do this for mama

Many parents get scared when they notice their little ones touching their sexual organs — sometimes even around 1.5 years old — or when they see signs of early curiosity about their body. We grew up in a culture where sexuality is misunderstood, repressed, and shamed, so it’s no wonder this fear gets passed on. But here’s what’s important to know: Children are deeply sentient beings. They explore the world through feeling, touch, and experience — with their whole body and bei

It’s not really about good manners — it’s about the safety of the nervous system. Because I’ll say it again: children need to be supported, not pushed. Lately, I’ve heard many loving, well-intentioned parents asking: “My child is glued to me all the time! They’re already 2 years old… How much longer will this last?” “Why do they still need my full attention all day?” “Shouldn’t they be more independent by now?” And yes — it can feel exhausting sometimes. Some educators even s

Why consistency matters (even when it feels like it’s not working) Many parents are trying so hard to offer gentle guidance, reframe behavior positively, and create safety. But it’s easy to feel defeated when your child keeps doing “that thing” — again and again. Here’s what’s really going on: Children under 6 are only beginning to understand the meaning behind words like “danger,” “wait,” or “not now.” Their brains are still forming the neural pathways that connect language

I think I had just sat down on the bench to look at the trees and the children playing in the park, when a mother jumped up from her seat, shouting at the child who was trying to climb the slide: "Be careful, you'll fall! Get out of there!" I’ve been reflecting on how we teach children about safety. There’s a huge difference between protecting children and controlling them out of fear. So often, from the age of 1.5 years,  So many toddlers hear this all day long: “Don’t touch